At the beginning of every year
many people go into making decisions that is popularly known as NEW YEAR
RESOLUTION. To me it is a good thing to do, however it is just very few that
has been able to maintain it up to 60% by the end of the year. The reason why
many fail to maintain it can be traced to their inability to fully come to
terms with the real meaning of what they have gotten themselves into.
WHAT IS RESOLUTION?
Let me say that it means “a self improvement
goal one sets for himself or herself.” Or “a personal pledge one makes to
himself or herself.” Or “intention to overcome old habits and create ones.” The
meaning of resolution is not limited to these ones I mentioned here; you can
also add your.
LET US START WITH THIS:
“a self improvement goal one sets
for himself or herself.” If one truly understands that New Year resolution is
or should be a “a self improvement goal” that person wont just go into it in
passively. It is because many people think it is just one of those things one
does or says at the beginning of the New Year that is why many falter even
before the end of January.
Sometimes why many fail with this
activity is because they fail to know or understand that this is a personal thing.
“A personal pledge one makes to himself or herself.” A pledge you made to
yourself. It is not a community or a collective affair. It is all about
bringing out the best in your individual personality. Because it is personal
you should not expect your friends and everybody around you to be in support or
to take part in it. You need the support of other humans to make progress but
you should allow their actions or reactions to be the determining factor. The final
choice and decision is all boiled down to your ability to maintain and keep the
ship of the pledge afloat.
Because it is “intention to
overcome old habits and create ones” there will be casualties. Many friends and
even family members will lose their place in your life and activity. It is absolutely
impossible for someone to do same thing at all times and expect a different
result. Therefore, if a new habit would formed some people in your life must be
dropped. Some are to be dropped permanently while others are for some time. New
people are also going to be allowed into your life to help you to get to where
you intended going to.
HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTION:
1. WRITE
IT DOWN, MAKE IT BOLD:- The first thing you must
do is to write it down, make it bold and keep it where you will always see
it. Writing it now will help you not to forget exactly what your decisions are.
Making it bold and keeping it where you will always see it means you will constantly
be in tune with it. Seeing it every day will keep it alive in your memory. Every
day while going out or coming in, you are having contact with your decision and
that will become a driver that drives you. Because it will mean that you will
not easily forget them.
2. TELL
YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS & YOUR MENTOR:- It is a known fact that “what
only one person knows is as good as not existing.” If you are the only person
that knows about your new decisions you might not be able to maintain it
because after all you are not accountable to anyone else. But knowing that you
are accountable to other people even though it is for your own good will make
you to try to keep to your decision. In life because we don’t want to lose the
trust some people have for us always help us in doing the right thing. If you
check well you will discover that people who always claim that it is their
lives and they have to live it the way they wish always end up with so many regrets.
Never forget that we all need someone to watch our backs at all time.
3. ANYTIME
YOU FAIL, TAKE RESPONSIBILTY & START ALL OVER AGAIN:- Telling you that you won’t
fail sometime is a very big lie. In your journey to become a better you, there
will always be ups and downs. But your ability to stay afloat is all dependent
on how much you can be able to stand up and take responsibility for your
mistake without apportioning blame to any one at all. Even if it is someone
that made you to fall, do not blame the person. Because somehow the decision to
fall was made by you. The said person didn’t force you, even if he/she forced you;
the final decision is still with you. Therefore blame yourself, progress into
forgiving yourself then move on with your life. Don’t allow yourself to be help
down by guilt because if you do, that guilt will drag you back into your vomit
many times you will get into deeper shit. What makes one a weak person is not
because he or she fell but what happens after the fall. If you fall and stay
down then you are weak but if you fall and stand up again to continue your life’s
journey trust me, you are very strong person.
4. IF
IT IS ABOUT HABIT, DISENGAGE YOURSELF:- For you to stay away from bad habits
and build a new a new one, you have to disengage yourself from some of your old
friends. Those friends or people that lead or encourage you into error must be
avoided. If it has to do with where or on what you spend your time, then you
have to stop going there or doing that thing. If it is TV, Phone, Computer,
Club, Bar, name it, and get yourself out of them. If it is a relationship,
break up and get up. For you to move forward just know that some things and
people must find their way out of your life.
5. GET
GOD INVOLVED:- The Bible says in 1 Samuel 2:9 “He will keep the
feet of his saints, and the wicked shall be silent in darkness; for by strength
shall no man prevail.” God is the one that will help and empower you to be able
to do those things you have chosen to do. Ask God’s Holy Spirit to come and
guide you. Jesus Christ told his disciples in Acts 1:8 “But ye shall
receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you…” The Holy Spirit is
the person that will give you power to do. Because it is when you can do that
you can also talk about telling others how you were able to make it till December
2014. Don’t run this race alone. Don’t go on this journey without God this
year. God said in the Bible book of Jeremiah
29:12 “Then shall ye call upon me, and
ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.” God is ready to hear
what you want to say to HIM. Come to Him today even it is with sins, He is
ready to forgive you.
Thank you and God bless you…
DEAR FRIEND SEE YOU IN DECEMBER
2014 ON TOP OF YOU GAME…LOVE YOU DEARLY…
Onuigwe Chidi Sirnoel
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