Inferiority complex is not peculiar with a
particular person. It is what all of us have felt one time or another so don’t
think that you are the only one. The difference is that some of us have worked
on ourselves and built our confidence to the extend it seems as if we are super
humans. Nobody is a super human, don’t allow anyone to make you think that you
are not up to, though you have a little work to do so that you too can overcome
inferiority complex.
So my friend I know how embarrassing sometimes you feel when
you and your friends go out to have a nice time. But when you look at yourself
you think that you do not measure up or match up. However you find yourself
remember that everybody is unique in the way God created him/her. Some people
are always calm while some others may always be in high spirits; excitement.
Feeling inferior before your friends
and other people will rob you your ability to perform. Optimum performance in
every field happens when an individual knows his quality, then go ahead to
manifest that quality without fear or favor.
Well here few points that can help you
to get out of inferiority complex.
TO OVERCOME
YOU HAVE TO
1: DETERMINE THE ROOT CAUSE OF YOUR INFERIORITY
COMPLEX. KNOW THE WHYS, AND WHATS:
Is it a bad
child hood experience? Is it inherited
from either or both parents? Is it that parents or guardians never allowed you
to express yourself?
Or is it
because you have failed to grow up? Most people with inferiority complex or low
self esteem are people that think like children. Children are self centered and
selfish.
Or do you
compare yourself with others? Do you
think that you are not rich enough, handsome, beautiful or tall enough? Or that
you can’t speak good English or the prevailing language of the place you find
yourself? Or educated enough or at all?
2: WHAT TO DO
OR NOT TO DO:
a.
GROW UP: You have to grow up. Stop being
a child. See yourself as a matured adult and position yourself as one.
b.
BUILD A POSITIVE ATTITUDE: Assure
yourself further that you are good and worth much more than you always assumed.
c.
IMPROVE YOURSELF: If you can’t
communicate very well in English or the prevailing language or dialect of where
you are. Then give yourself more into learning it. Try to upgrade yourself in all areas. In
dressing if you don’t have much, train to keep the ones you have clean. If you
want to buy, don’t go for the costly ones go for what you can afford that will
be fitting to you.
d. STOP
COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OTHERS: No matter what happened do not compare yourself
with others. Always know that you are unique and specially made by God. If you keep comparing yourself with others you
will feel a little lesser. Especially
people who you think that are more endowed physically more than you. 2
CORINTHIANS 10:12, “For we dare not make
ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend
themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing
themselves among themselves, are not wise. “Do you think that you are not
beautiful or handsome? The perception of beauty differs from person to person.
You should not feel inferior if you are not good looking. Your looks are special in a unique way. If you
are gifted with large eyes, highlight it and watch your face glow with a new
look. This is just an example and you should always look at yourself in a
positive way.
e.
NEVER TRY TO IMPRESS: Be more result
oriented than impression oriented. “It’s better to be relevant than to be
liked” Many people fail to deliver appropriate results because people will say
something or think something.
f.
STOP BEING PEOPLE CONSCIOUS: Realize that people are too occupied to watch
every move you make. Majority of the people you come across have their own
issues to deal with and are busy figuring out how to deal with them. So to
assume that the rest of the world are jeering at you while you are walking with
your face down is wrong. Avoid friends or people that make you feel inferior.
Stay away from those that run down yourself image. Make friend with those that
will help build yourself image. Those
friends and people who make you to think that you are a nobody, stay away from
them. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your
consent.” Avoid those that are always feeling inferior or those that are always
negative minded. Look out for positive minded people, people who have to some
extent has build up their self image and are confident about themselves.
You
should know that others are just like yourself, with the same doubts and
inhibitions. The successful ones are those who have won over their inhibitions
and practiced self confidence so that it becomes a second nature with them. So
practice self confidence and it will be yours for you to face the competitive
world with boosted vigor. Self confidence is a magnet which draws success
towards you.
Never
feel you are a lesser person, because you are not. Interact with people,
because people skill is another door which makes sure of your rise in your
journey towards success.
g.
FINALLY: Do not feel let down when you
see your friends flourishing financially, educationally, marital, etc. Even if
your friends are in a high post or positions, don’t let your confidence
fail
you. Dear Come on, you too can do
better. You have the capacity to do better than anyone else. It is just that
you have to reconciled yourself to the fact that it is possible for you to
fully make use of your potential.
h.
Develop you own special skill and watch
success knocking at your door.
