So many lies are being peddled in
and around us today. Most of these lies come from Writers, Columnist, Hosts and
Hostesses of talk shows or phone-in programs on our Television and Radio
Stations and on Air-Personalities. Most (not all) of the mid-night phone-in
programs are designed to ruin the character and integrity of my generation
(youths). Moreover those hosting these programs always make it look as if you
don’t have a sex-partner that you are from the Stone Age. Trust the young
people of today: look around you, you will see every one of them (except for
the wise few) scrambling to belong (to get a sex partner). This is an error
that needs to be corrected. But unfortunately those that are supposed to make
the correction are neck deep into the show.
Well, in this piece of writing we
are going to talk about SEXUAL BONDING (some people call it SOUL TIE). Bonding
means, the process of forming a special relationship with somebody. Bonding
here as you can note has gone beyond “Ordinary” relationship to a “special”
relationship. Every one of us both the old and the young is yarning for this
“Special” kind of relationship. We all need to be bonded to someone specially
(not sexually) because humans are created by God to live interdependently.
Because we all need a special kind of relationship some people are taking
advantage of others and get them bonded to them sexually. To me sexual bonding
is as bad as being in sexual bondage. Oh! Don’t look at me like that.
Sexual bonding which leads to
sexual bondage occurs immediately there’s sexual intimacy between a man and a
woman that are not legally married. This happens once there is exchange of
blood between a man and woman through sexual penetration. Even if you use
condom you will still be sexually bonded to your sin partner. I will like you
to know that this case is more on women than on men because bonding for a man
is totally different from that of a woman. However, bonding is the tiny line
that holds every relationship together (both healthy and unhealthy
relationship).
For any relationship to stand
there must be a bonding. Being it business or family relationship; bonding is
highly needed.
You must know that, “a man is not bonded to a woman through
sexual intercourse” but through what he has spent (he is spending) it may be energy,
time, money or material thing.” In Genesis 3:16b God said to the woman: “yet your urge shall be for your husband, and he shall be
your master.” This means that the
woman will be always desire the man that made her love to her. You know that
there is no room for sex outside marriage in God. A man can forget the ladies
or girls he has had sex with, but no woman can forget the men that has had sex
with her; because God created men to rule the sexual consciousness of women. For
a woman hearing the name or the voice of your ex makes her heart run a little
faster.
This is so because God created
men and women with so many “major” differences. But the unfortunate thing today
is that my “sisters” of today tend to think that men and women are the same.
Honey, men and women are far and wide apart when it comes to anything that
concerns sex. A woman gets bonded through sex. A man can beat and almost kill a
girl and she would not quit the relationship because she has given him all when
she gave him her body.
Now a man gets mad when after spending on a
woman without getting sex. He goes about ranting and telling everybody that
cares to listen that after all that I deed for this lady she still have the
audacity to leave me. I will kill her in this town; in short this city will not
contain both of us. Some men will even go to the extent of planning rape to
make sure they take their own pound of the flesh. The man is mad and angry because
he has bonded with the girl with the things he has spent. He has spent his time
building the said lady or he has spent his money or may be even his energy. So he
will use any trick necessary to get back to the lady or girl. Some lady will
think that all the ranting and begging a man is “throwing” at her is because of
the strong love he has for her; my dear it is not.
If a man really loves you, he
should wait for the right time and the only right time I know is once you have
said “I do,” “till death do us path”. So anytime a guy and a girl break up; the
guy comes back begging and telling you how he has missed you, he is not missing
you in actual sense he is missing the sexual comfort he had been getting from
you. In every sexual relationship the woman pays higher price.
I shall stop here but not before
telling you that even if you have messed up yourself; there is still hope for
you. Don’t condemn yourself because God has not condemned you. God loves you
more than everybody on this earth put together He cares so much about you. If
you can surrender yourself and your priorities to Him, I tell you, He will
cleanse you and make all thing right. The blood that cleansed me and set my
priorities right is still very much available and it can also do the same to
you, but you need to ask Jesus Christ to come into your life and take control.
Let me drop my biro by saying
this: “never you try to clean the dirty waters of yesterday from your life, let
it never bother you how you will make it tomorrow but try in all you can do to
make today clean enough because today is the only day you have.”
Sweet Heart I love you with all
my heart see you on LOVE RACE 4
AFTER THOUGHT
Any Man (even dogs too) can have
an immediate attraction for your beauty and sexy nature, however you can’t earn
any man’s respect and love because you are beautiful or sexy. Stop deceiving
yourself or being deceived by false glamour you see from some so called role
models (Actors & Actresses) or from Television and Bill Board Adverts. A
man will only give you your full respect because there’s something upstairs (in
your brain). I have always respected wise girls. Throughout my years of
“vanity” I never joked with girls that are wise. Wise girls don’t open their
legs they open their mouth not to gossip but to talk sense into a man. The
value a man places on a woman is dependent on how she values herself. Many
girls value themselves as sex objects and that is how guys see them. So my
love! Be wise. Don't wait until you make mistake; you can learn from others
experiences. If you have strayed don’t condemn yourself. The power to stop and
retrain your steps now is there with you: it is all about decision.
SUGGESTION
1. Any person that makes you to do what you don’t want avoid
him/her
2. Those friends of yours that think and talk only about boys,
girls and sex avoid them.
3. Get new friends that can build you emotionally
intellectually and spiritually.
4. Contact MSS Consult we can really be of help to you.
I know that there is nothing I
have written here that you’ve not heard before. Your parents, teachers or even
books must have let you into knowledge of these things but the only difference
this one will make is totally dependent on you. If you want it to work and help
you, you must start now; I mean now to do what it suggests to you. I love you
with all my heart.
LOVE FROM SIRNOEL
