SOBER REFLECTION

I have been thinking about this life and why people struggle so much. Sometimes we work so much and never have time to enjoy our labour before death come calling. I never wanted to write any piece like this, this period but the urge kept coming and I have to obey the spirit that controls me and put down this shot piece. 
The greatest thing a man can do to and for himself is to always sit back sometime and take a sober reflection. Think about his relationship with his maker the God Almighty. This is a period when all we think, do and talk about is politics. Many people will be caught unawares and they might lose their soul to the devil in hell if something negative happen now. The way some of us are going about life this period shows clearly that we have little or no place for our God. Some of us have even turned our political leaders to our temporal gods. It is not the best at all. These men will always end up disappointing us but Jahovah will never disappoint any one (it doesn’t matter what you think of Him).
As much as we have to go into politics or should I say, vote in the candidate of our choice, we should know that there is a God who does not need election to be on the throne but needs our acceptance to come into our hearts and rule. This God is still around our heart telling us not to shot Him out this period. This God is asking us to open our hearts for Him to come in.
The aim of this shot piece is to make you take a moment aside politics and look deep down into your life and know if the relationship you have with God is still intact. If you think it is no more intact, why not retrace you step and place it where it should be. If you have never been with Him; you can also do that by asking Him to come in and take over your heart.
Jesus Christ is still the Lord and He rules in the affairs of men. Don’t vote him out because of your daily life pursuit. Probably what is taking your time now is not politics but whatever it is; don’t go far away from the shelter Jesus Christ provides.
Sticking to Jesus is still the best thing to do…

GAY MARRIAGE & GOD’S PURPOSE FOR MARRIAGE:

There is a popular saying that says “when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse becomes inevitable.” Let me start what I’m about writing with like this. To me the argument on gay marriage should not have come up at all if we really understand the purpose of marriage. As a Bible Student and teacher the Bible told us some of the purposes of marriage.

The two major reasons for marriage is

1; - COMPANIONSHIP: Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” God saw that the man needed a person by his side. Animals and trees are not enough. Therefore God gave him a friend and companion, some of his own kind. Few months ago on twitter it was a serious discussion and war of words between my humble self and some gays. One of the gays said that, we all have freedom of association, there is no way someone will tell him who should be his companion and I laughed because man & woman relationship goes beyond companionship.

The reason why sex outside marriage is a great sin is because people enter into blood covenant they are not ready to maintain. If man and woman relationship is just about companionship, it means that many boys & girls will be living together. The argument will be; after all he/she is the person I want around me at this point in time. (This is a talk for another day.)

As an Igbo this statement “mother of my child or father of my child” is alien to our culture. What is known to my culture and ancestors is “my wife or my husband.” Igbo men & women are proud & always want to showcase their husband or their wife. (This is the only reason why teenage pregnancy is minimal in Igbo land. Children outside wedlock or conventional family has a serious societal stigma both for the parents & the child.) The Western nations especially USA has so much bastardized MARRIAGE UNION with their unending divorce spree. That is why someone can addressed as mother of someone’s child(ren)without the person necessarily being the wife of the man. So man & woman living together is God’s design. It is what God prescribed. But living as husband & wife. God does not and did not design man & man marriage or woman & woman marriage.

2;-PROCREATION: Genesis 1:26-28 “And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.  ²⁷ So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.  ²⁸ And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth.”

It very important for us to understand that God wants men and women to live together and reproduce so that the earth will not lack human beings. Because these are what formed the basis of family and the reason why gay marriage and relationship is anti God and anti nature. Remember that prior to the creation of man God has already commanded all the animals He created to multiply and replenish the earth.

Even when God created animals most of them are created male & female. When God told Noah to take animals into the boat he built, He (God) told him to take them male & female. So if God wants male and female to reproduce where does man and man or woman and woman marriage relationship come from?

It is the devil’s plan to keep man in perpetual bondage. The devil wants to make people live in sin and with a seared conscience. Because people of today worship the devil in so many ways God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women & men did change the natural use of their body into that which is against nature & God.” (Romans 1:26) (Emphasis added by me.)

God wants to have many people live in this world and am so sure that if gay marriage were to be the order of the day before now, the world would not have up to 7billion persons. Gay relationship is taking people lower than the dogs which are considered the dirtiest when it comes to sex.  

 Jesus Christ died to set sinners free. Therefore if you are living in bondage of same sex sexual relationship come to Jesus Christ now and He will forgive you and guide you on how to lead a more better life. A life your family and children born or unborn will be proud of.

Same sex sexual relationship is a serious heavy load but Jesus Christ says “come unto me all you that labour and heavy laden.” Jesus Christ is ready to guide you out of that evil. Thank you.

NIGERIA: GAY MARRIAGE & HUMAN RIGHT BRUHAHA…

I have been thinking about the noise USA and Canada are making concerning this gay issue. It is very unfortunate how these countries still consider us their colonies. They are seeing themselves as our perpetual colonial masters. They don’t want us to make our decisions on issues that concern us based on our cultural values and principles. It hurts me that Ugandan president is today being held captive by these people. They have turned him into a puppy that is why he stopped signing anti gay law in Uganda.

What have been forming headlines all over the world today is Nigeria’s anti gay law. This anti gay law has shown me that everybody in this world can interpret Nigeria’s constitution. I have been reading what some world leaders are saying and I have also been laughing because they all want Nigeria to reverse the law to favour their in human life style.  They are all saying that they are disappointed with President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan {GEJ}. Why wouldn’t they be discouraged? They should be because they thought that GEJ will be like Ugandan president who they have turned into a “mumu.” Many people think that GEJ is someone that dances to every kind of music. But GEJ has once again shown to me and prove to the whole world that he is not a man to be toyed with.  All thanks to God for giving Goodluck Jonathan the courage to overlook Barrack Obama, David Cameron, Banki Moon or what is he called (UN Secretary General)

Americans should know that we are Africans and we have our values and standard. I am happy that white men helped us to remove some of the evil practices but removing one evil practice and introducing another evil practice is an error. There is a saying in Igbo land that says “onye lere enwe ma ga zuta nkita n’ihe ntukwu ka no na be ya” (the person that sold a monkey then buys dog, something that sits is still in his house). It is abomination in our soil for a man to marry a man. Let me even ask us… if a man marries a man and they adopts a baby…how will the baby introduce them to his friends? If a Lady marries a lady and they adopt a baby how will that baby also introduce then to his friends? Funny…

HUMAN RIGHT VIOLATION: It is funny how all these men who want us to do what animals do not do are basing their argument on human right violation. What sort of human right violation is it? What is the definition of human right violation to these people? They all want us to play their games, dance their music as if we don’t have the mind of our own. For the fact that we Africans are looking up to the west for some enlightenment that does not mean that we have forgotten our roots. We have culture and value system. As I wrote earlier on; I so much appreciate these westerners for helping us to stop the killing of twins, human sacrifice etc.

But they should not expect us to live below animals. It is a known fact that male dog does not & cannot have sex with another male dog, likewise goats. We African are predominantly farmers therefore we understood all these things. How can we then knowing all these subject ourselves to same sex sexual relationship. In #Igbo land where I come from it is called “alu” (abomination).

Same sex sexual relationship is actually the real HUMAN RIGHT VIOLATION. Let me say this again. Same sex sexual relationship is abusing ones human right. Your right as a man is for your wife to satisfy you sexually and the right of the woman is for the husband to satisfy her sexual urge. Therefore for another man to burst another man’s anus and make him to wear adult diaper is human right abuse. For a girl to raise another girls sexual feeling and use object other than penis to make her reach orgasm is abusing the girl’s right. Let us stop this foolishness from the west.

NEW YEAR RESOLUTION

At the beginning of every year many people go into making decisions that is popularly known as NEW YEAR RESOLUTION. To me it is a good thing to do, however it is just very few that has been able to maintain it up to 60% by the end of the year. The reason why many fail to maintain it can be traced to their inability to fully come to terms with the real meaning of what they have gotten themselves into.

WHAT IS RESOLUTION?

Let me say that it means “a self improvement goal one sets for himself or herself.” Or “a personal pledge one makes to himself or herself.” Or “intention to overcome old habits and create ones.” The meaning of resolution is not limited to these ones I mentioned here; you can also add your.

LET US START WITH THIS:

“a self improvement goal one sets for himself or herself.” If one truly understands that New Year resolution is or should be a “a self improvement goal” that person wont just go into it in passively. It is because many people think it is just one of those things one does or says at the beginning of the New Year that is why many falter even before the end of January.

Sometimes why many fail with this activity is because they fail to know or understand that this is a personal thing. “A personal pledge one makes to himself or herself.” A pledge you made to yourself. It is not a community or a collective affair. It is all about bringing out the best in your individual personality. Because it is personal you should not expect your friends and everybody around you to be in support or to take part in it. You need the support of other humans to make progress but you should allow their actions or reactions to be the determining factor. The final choice and decision is all boiled down to your ability to maintain and keep the ship of the pledge afloat.

Because it is “intention to overcome old habits and create ones” there will be casualties. Many friends and even family members will lose their place in your life and activity. It is absolutely impossible for someone to do same thing at all times and expect a different result. Therefore, if a new habit would formed some people in your life must be dropped. Some are to be dropped permanently while others are for some time. New people are also going to be allowed into your life to help you to get to where you intended going to.

HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTION:

1.       WRITE IT DOWN, MAKE IT BOLD:- The first thing you must do is to write it down, make it bold and keep it where you will always see it. Writing it now will help you not to forget exactly what your decisions are. Making it bold and keeping it where you will always see it means you will constantly be in tune with it. Seeing it every day will keep it alive in your memory. Every day while going out or coming in, you are having contact with your decision and that will become a driver that drives you. Because it will mean that you will not easily forget them.

2.       TELL YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS & YOUR MENTOR:- It is a known fact that “what only one person knows is as good as not existing.” If you are the only person that knows about your new decisions you might not be able to maintain it because after all you are not accountable to anyone else. But knowing that you are accountable to other people even though it is for your own good will make you to try to keep to your decision. In life because we don’t want to lose the trust some people have for us always help us in doing the right thing. If you check well you will discover that people who always claim that it is their lives and they have to live it the way they wish always end up with so many regrets. Never forget that we all need someone to watch our backs at all time.

3.       ANYTIME YOU FAIL, TAKE RESPONSIBILTY & START ALL OVER AGAIN:- Telling you that you won’t fail sometime is a very big lie. In your journey to become a better you, there will always be ups and downs. But your ability to stay afloat is all dependent on how much you can be able to stand up and take responsibility for your mistake without apportioning blame to any one at all. Even if it is someone that made you to fall, do not blame the person. Because somehow the decision to fall was made by you. The said person didn’t force you, even if he/she forced you; the final decision is still with you. Therefore blame yourself, progress into forgiving yourself then move on with your life. Don’t allow yourself to be help down by guilt because if you do, that guilt will drag you back into your vomit many times you will get into deeper shit. What makes one a weak person is not because he or she fell but what happens after the fall. If you fall and stay down then you are weak but if you fall and stand up again to continue your life’s journey trust me, you are very strong person.

4.       IF IT IS ABOUT HABIT, DISENGAGE YOURSELF:- For you to stay away from bad habits and build a new a new one, you have to disengage yourself from some of your old friends. Those friends or people that lead or encourage you into error must be avoided. If it has to do with where or on what you spend your time, then you have to stop going there or doing that thing. If it is TV, Phone, Computer, Club, Bar, name it, and get yourself out of them. If it is a relationship, break up and get up. For you to move forward just know that some things and people must find their way out of your life.

5.       GET GOD INVOLVED:- The Bible says in 1 Samuel 2:9  “He will keep the feet of his saints, and the wicked shall be silent in darkness; for by strength shall no man prevail.” God is the one that will help and empower you to be able to do those things you have chosen to do. Ask God’s Holy Spirit to come and guide you. Jesus Christ told his disciples in Acts 1:8 “But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you…” The Holy Spirit is the person that will give you power to do. Because it is when you can do that you can also talk about telling others how you were able to make it till December 2014. Don’t run this race alone. Don’t go on this journey without God this year. God said in the Bible book of Jeremiah 29:12 “Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.” God is ready to hear what you want to say to HIM. Come to Him today even it is with sins, He is ready to forgive you.

Thank you and God bless you…

DEAR FRIEND SEE YOU IN DECEMBER 2014 ON TOP OF YOU GAME…LOVE YOU DEARLY…

Onuigwe Chidi Sirnoel

BALANCING GENDER EQUALITY

Gender is our legal status as men & women or boys or girls. Being a man or woman is determined by our sex organs. Also by our behaviors and characteristics.

Our shape and body build up contribute also to our gender. Therefore it becomes a funny thing when a man or a woman tries to look like a woman. God who made us with our looks and shapes was not sleeping and didn’t make us man or woman by mistake. God knew so well what we would look like before giving us our shapes.

God gave men broad shoulders with muscle while he gave women breast and hips. The reason why God gave men broad shoulders, strong arms and muscles is not for men to use it to subdue women. Beat them up, rape them or force them into sexual relationship. Men are created with strong arms because they need to work to provide for their wives and children. Men have muscles so that they can be able to protect women. Keep them safe in time of danger. Men are supposed to act as security for women.

One thing that has amazed for a long time is how male chimpanzee protects a female chimpanzee. Not just female chimpanzee, male chimpanzee also feels jealousy when he sees a human male walking hand in hand with a human female. Male chimpanzee sees himself as a guard and a protector of women. But unfortunately most human males are out there to destroy their female counterpart.

Now for women; God gave them breast, hips and the shape we call figure eight, not for them to use it to seduce men. Not for them to use it cause confusion in the society. I have heard it so many times when girls would be bragging; saying, “Immediately he saw my shape and looked at cleavage he became confused and did all that I asked him to do.” It is a pity when we miss use the free gift of nature.

God so much endowed Black women that their beauty is something to be proud of. The way God caved black ladies made them look outstanding. But using God’s endowment to seduce or to lead men astray is abuse of free gift of nature.

Girls are created by God and nature empowered them to be mothers. The breast on their chest is for feeding humans. Every woman is created a manager. Women are natural economists. God packaged women in a very unique way that even small girl children sometimes want to play mother and show care to even their older brothers and sisters.

With what I have written so far; you will discover that being a woman does not make you a prey to men. It only means that you have someone to look up to. Not as a lord but as a partner. You will also know that being a woman does not make an inferior creature. We all we come to understand that no gender is better or more important than the other one because we are created to complement each other. Just as Ndi Igbo will say “aka nri kwuo aka ekpe, aka ekpe akwuo aka nri.” Meaning “left hand washes the right hand and the right hand washes the left hand.” This is what God expect from us. With better understanding amongst men and women our world would be a much better place to live.

We have to understand that the role one plays as a man or a woman is in the society is determined by the society one found himself/herself in. Therefore, it is unfortunate that we that are here in Nigeria are trying to live like the Americans or Europeans. We tend to forget that every nation is unique. Every culture is unique and special. If you will permit me, I will tell you that why we are having so many problems in the family today in Africa is because we are borrowing the good, bad and the ugly cultures of the western world.

I am not saying that we should go back into dark ages. But we should know when to draw a line. The high level of divorce in America is caused by their weak marriage institution. Today in Africa we are joining them because women in Africa are trying so hard to become independent. Well God that created us (male & female) made us to be interdependent.

We have discarded the thing that made us a people. We discarded what made us special and we are trying so hard to borrow another man’s culture and behavior.  

Men are said to be the head while women are the neck all of us know that without the neck the head cannot turn. Therefore, as a man you must have to respect a woman. You have to give her, her right place in everything.

MALE & FEMALE is GOD’s idea therefore; there is no imperfection in either of them. I have some men call the women “devil, satan, useless creatures, I have also heard some women calling same.” Funny! God is the person that created both women and men and He saw that they are perfect after He created them.

As a man imagine a world without women. As a woman picture a world without men. Humn! A world where you have only men without women would be like an engine without engine oil. A world where you have only women would be like having a beautifully packaged engine oil without an engine to use it in.

For the world population to keep growing we need each other. Men cannot give birth neither can women become pregnant without men. Be wise in dealing with each other.

“So God created a man in His own image, in the image of God created He him; male and female created He them.” Genesis 1:27

Men are not devils also women are not demons. Each of us are here to fulfill the purpose of God for creating each gender.

“And God saw everything that He had made, and behold, it was very good.” Genesis 1:31

Please lets us respect one another. No one is greater and no one is lesser. GOD BLESS YOU

ONUIGWE CHIDI SIRNOEL… From OCTOBER 2013 YOUTHS MATTER