NEW YEAR RESOLUTION

At the beginning of every year many people go into making decisions that is popularly known as NEW YEAR RESOLUTION. To me it is a good thing to do, however it is just very few that has been able to maintain it up to 60% by the end of the year. The reason why many fail to maintain it can be traced to their inability to fully come to terms with the real meaning of what they have gotten themselves into.

WHAT IS RESOLUTION?

Let me say that it means “a self improvement goal one sets for himself or herself.” Or “a personal pledge one makes to himself or herself.” Or “intention to overcome old habits and create ones.” The meaning of resolution is not limited to these ones I mentioned here; you can also add your.

LET US START WITH THIS:

“a self improvement goal one sets for himself or herself.” If one truly understands that New Year resolution is or should be a “a self improvement goal” that person wont just go into it in passively. It is because many people think it is just one of those things one does or says at the beginning of the New Year that is why many falter even before the end of January.

Sometimes why many fail with this activity is because they fail to know or understand that this is a personal thing. “A personal pledge one makes to himself or herself.” A pledge you made to yourself. It is not a community or a collective affair. It is all about bringing out the best in your individual personality. Because it is personal you should not expect your friends and everybody around you to be in support or to take part in it. You need the support of other humans to make progress but you should allow their actions or reactions to be the determining factor. The final choice and decision is all boiled down to your ability to maintain and keep the ship of the pledge afloat.

Because it is “intention to overcome old habits and create ones” there will be casualties. Many friends and even family members will lose their place in your life and activity. It is absolutely impossible for someone to do same thing at all times and expect a different result. Therefore, if a new habit would formed some people in your life must be dropped. Some are to be dropped permanently while others are for some time. New people are also going to be allowed into your life to help you to get to where you intended going to.

HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTION:

1.       WRITE IT DOWN, MAKE IT BOLD:- The first thing you must do is to write it down, make it bold and keep it where you will always see it. Writing it now will help you not to forget exactly what your decisions are. Making it bold and keeping it where you will always see it means you will constantly be in tune with it. Seeing it every day will keep it alive in your memory. Every day while going out or coming in, you are having contact with your decision and that will become a driver that drives you. Because it will mean that you will not easily forget them.

2.       TELL YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS & YOUR MENTOR:- It is a known fact that “what only one person knows is as good as not existing.” If you are the only person that knows about your new decisions you might not be able to maintain it because after all you are not accountable to anyone else. But knowing that you are accountable to other people even though it is for your own good will make you to try to keep to your decision. In life because we don’t want to lose the trust some people have for us always help us in doing the right thing. If you check well you will discover that people who always claim that it is their lives and they have to live it the way they wish always end up with so many regrets. Never forget that we all need someone to watch our backs at all time.

3.       ANYTIME YOU FAIL, TAKE RESPONSIBILTY & START ALL OVER AGAIN:- Telling you that you won’t fail sometime is a very big lie. In your journey to become a better you, there will always be ups and downs. But your ability to stay afloat is all dependent on how much you can be able to stand up and take responsibility for your mistake without apportioning blame to any one at all. Even if it is someone that made you to fall, do not blame the person. Because somehow the decision to fall was made by you. The said person didn’t force you, even if he/she forced you; the final decision is still with you. Therefore blame yourself, progress into forgiving yourself then move on with your life. Don’t allow yourself to be help down by guilt because if you do, that guilt will drag you back into your vomit many times you will get into deeper shit. What makes one a weak person is not because he or she fell but what happens after the fall. If you fall and stay down then you are weak but if you fall and stand up again to continue your life’s journey trust me, you are very strong person.

4.       IF IT IS ABOUT HABIT, DISENGAGE YOURSELF:- For you to stay away from bad habits and build a new a new one, you have to disengage yourself from some of your old friends. Those friends or people that lead or encourage you into error must be avoided. If it has to do with where or on what you spend your time, then you have to stop going there or doing that thing. If it is TV, Phone, Computer, Club, Bar, name it, and get yourself out of them. If it is a relationship, break up and get up. For you to move forward just know that some things and people must find their way out of your life.

5.       GET GOD INVOLVED:- The Bible says in 1 Samuel 2:9  “He will keep the feet of his saints, and the wicked shall be silent in darkness; for by strength shall no man prevail.” God is the one that will help and empower you to be able to do those things you have chosen to do. Ask God’s Holy Spirit to come and guide you. Jesus Christ told his disciples in Acts 1:8 “But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you…” The Holy Spirit is the person that will give you power to do. Because it is when you can do that you can also talk about telling others how you were able to make it till December 2014. Don’t run this race alone. Don’t go on this journey without God this year. God said in the Bible book of Jeremiah 29:12 “Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.” God is ready to hear what you want to say to HIM. Come to Him today even it is with sins, He is ready to forgive you.

Thank you and God bless you…

DEAR FRIEND SEE YOU IN DECEMBER 2014 ON TOP OF YOU GAME…LOVE YOU DEARLY…

Onuigwe Chidi Sirnoel